F*ck Boys

We are humans, so we desire.
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It is a natural part of being human.
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But here is the bazillion dollar question: is what you desire serving you?
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Is what you desire giving you what You, capitol Y, actually desire in the end?
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Is your future self proud of HOW and WHAT you are desiring?

There are two types of Desire. (1) F*ck Boy Desire (or if you are a geriatric millennial like me- Player Desire) (also shit my dad is totally gonna read this - urban dictionary it, dad). and (2) Marriage Material Desire.
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Stay with me.
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Here it is in real time: Say you want to lose weight. You can desire to eat the cookie and then eat the cookie. This way of desiring will not get you what you really desire in the end. It is like wasting your desire, time and energy on a F*ck Boy if what you want is to get married.
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F*ck Boy Desire doesn't get you skinny and it doesn't get you married. It just leaves you feeling gross and ashamed and regretful and out of alignment with You and future You.
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Now let's look at the kind of desiring that gets you somewhere (assuming you want to go to that somewhere): Marriage Material Desire.
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You also have the choice to actively DESIRE to be at your natural weight, feeling vibrant, light, alive, healthy. This type of desire is active. You will need to gently cultivate it, remember what it is you ACTUALLY want when the cookie or the F*ck Boy Desire appears.
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If you have been operating from F Boy Desire it will take you a hot minute to switch to operate from Marriage Material Desire. That is okay.
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BUT. It is soooo worth CHOOSING to DESIRE the thing that will get you to where you want to go. To the place your future self is PROUD of.
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You get to CHOOSE what you desire. Change your way of desiring to help you get what you REALLY want.
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Make the You that is on her deathbed proud (I know dramatic, but still good).
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And now that I got all morbid on you, have the Best Day Ever,

Laura